I found the first few examples very sad. How miserable of a person do you have to be if you’ve been given a death sentence (illness probably) and spend the little time and energy you have left plotting drama at your own funeral, so that a third party can shame and expose the people who are attending your funeral??
I also think it’s unfair of the second example to come out as gay and also name his lover at the funeral. I’m guessing this was a secret because that particular bike club wasn’t very open minded, the deceased doesn’t care because now he’s gone but his lover probably does very much care but now he’s burned.
I really hope that if I’m ever in this situation i can focus on being grateful and spend my time on much more positive things as I’m dying rather than revenge beyond the grave.
I also just finished reading Eugene o’kelly’s book (chasing daylight) on his last 100 days between when he finds out he has terminal brain cancer and only three months left to live, and how he is doing everything he can to have the beat time of his life while also making it easier for his whole family and friends to deal with his death. Quite a contrast from the story in the article and much much more positive.
Not necessarily, but think about it: you’re given a month left to live. 30 days. Does it make any sense to spend time and energy being bitter and angry, and spend some of that time on people you dislike so that you can get revenge after you’re dead (and thus won’t even be around to see)? In my opinion, you have to be miserable to even entertain the possibility vs spending all the time you have enjoying yourself and saying goodbye to the people you actually do love.
I also think it’s unfair of the second example to come out as gay and also name his lover at the funeral. I’m guessing this was a secret because that particular bike club wasn’t very open minded, the deceased doesn’t care because now he’s gone but his lover probably does very much care but now he’s burned.
I really hope that if I’m ever in this situation i can focus on being grateful and spend my time on much more positive things as I’m dying rather than revenge beyond the grave.
I also just finished reading Eugene o’kelly’s book (chasing daylight) on his last 100 days between when he finds out he has terminal brain cancer and only three months left to live, and how he is doing everything he can to have the beat time of his life while also making it easier for his whole family and friends to deal with his death. Quite a contrast from the story in the article and much much more positive.