Then why would you try to get rid of it. Fear is a tool that protects us from dangerous situations. If something is actually dangerous, then it would be rational to be afraid of it. It doesn't make any sense whatsoever to desensitize yourself to cobras unless you're literally a herpetologist or snake handler, for example.
Because even though it’s justified it’s still extremely inconvenient on a day to day level. Basically yes it is like I’m a cobra handler who is scared of cobras
Snake handlers shouldn't be afraid of cobras though. It's still a risk of course but it's not dangerous in the sense that it's dangerous for a normal person because of their education and experience. They've done the exposure therapy.
If your situation isn't actively harming you and is only a risk, then exposure therapy will work.
Science does not say that behavioural therapy works in 100% of cases. It seems you want to believe that it does. I have tried behavioural therapy, it is not right for me, it doesn’t work for me. I pursued different modalities that do work for me instead
Asserting that one modality must work for everyone is ascientific nonsense
It just sounds like classic depressed thinking to me. Every depressed and anxious person thinks they're the exception to being able to ne helped. Some are right but the odds are not in your favor on that one.