I feel like you are trying to draw a false equivalence in both directions to create a loaded question. Obviously the parent is comparing housing of approximately similar value, with different densities and local amenities. My answer is neither: I don't want to live in and maintain a massive mansion nor have to drive 20+ minutes to do literally anything in Bal Air. I'm also not interested in living in apartments which are often not representative of the advantages of urban living because they are frequently built away from transit and business districts.